Nosey neighbor gives German Shepherd owner unsolicited training advice and touches the dog without permission: 'Who puts their hands around the mouth of an unfamiliar dog like that???'

Ayala Sorotsky • Writer and Editor

Jun 13, 2026 7:30 AM EDT

Why do people think dogs are just sidewalk decorations for them to judge, approach, and touch without warning or permission?

Dogs are living, breathing, feeling creatures. They're different than us, for sure, but they're as much individuals as any person you know. And it's what one woman on the r/germanshepherds community knows about her German Shepherd, Riot. As far as what she tells about him, he's far away from behaving as his name might suggest. He's not causing any riots, isn't acting aggressively, and is generally a very well-behaved and well-trained good boy. But that doesn't stop one nosey neighbor, who doesn't even own a dog, from treating Riot as if she can do whatever she wants with him. And that's a big no-no.

There's something very basic that people don't understand about personal space and boundaries, and that these unwritten rules don't apply to humans alone. Dogs, cats, and even pet bunnies can have very particular views about who may or may not enter their personal space, pet them, and generally be around them. Not because they're snobs, but because different animals have different wants and needs when it comes to this subject. Yes, including humans.

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There's one thing about responsible dog owners that we really appreciate, and that is that they know their dog like no other person. Sure, there are also many bad dog owners out there, and they should do better, but mostly - dog parents know their dog children. And it's not that hard to recognize which type of dog owner you talk to, once you actually listen. Which is what this neighbor didn't do. It doesn't come off like she approached the woman to listen and learn if she's a responsible dog owner. It seems like she went there to preach, judge, and break any personal boundaries this German Shepherd has.
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The advice here is what we would give to any dog parent in a similar situation. Sure, nothing has escalated to the point where the dog was sensing danger (just extreme uncomfortable unease), but this is exactly why, in these “grey area” situations, you shouldn't beat yourself up for not reacting the way you wanted to. It's confusing, especially if you've never experienced anything like this before. The best thing to do is disengage - both for your sake, and your dog's. These people just don't deserve your time and effort.
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